Dilemma For Deciding Between Two Men For Your Future

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Marriage is a big step for the future of one's life. Therefore, Quite often a woman who began to question again whether the partner is currently the best selection or not. In the midst of doubt, sometimes a loophole for a third party to enter. By giving a brief comfort, in fact, the presence of two men who enter in your life will make a deeper dilemma.

According to psychologist Liza Marielly Djaprie M.Si, Psi, SC, a condition in which a person can love two people at once it is reasonable. According to her, everyone would like to get better in his life. But before choosing need to consider from various angles and have to know what your dating goals. If you are in the middle position can not decide which of the two men who will be a friend of your life, the following tips may help find a solution.

1. Reflection of Relationships
View back trip your relationship with both men. Consider objectively which of them that can make you comfortable and be yourself. Leave aside the bad feelings, compassion or pity. Remember, marriage is a long process involving the future, of course you do not want to regret the decision.

"Reflect on the relationship that you live and how you feel. A healthy and lasting relationship is created because of the depth of feelings for each other," said psychologist, Ruth Abraham.

2. Choose Love or comfortable?
Before dropping the option, focus on the goals you in building a relationship. If you want to step up to a more serious level, or still want to play around? Discover the side of the man who makes you feel comfortable or really you love.

"If it is more convenient to focus at herself, for her could find people who make her comfortable, very well, serve her, help her, give her the goods, all okay. If love is look to other people, who can receive her what it is, "Liza Marielly psychologist advice.

If you want to find a life partner, a graduate of the University of Indonesia's psychologist suggested to choose the man she loved. According to her, people who love each other learn and grow together. "Although people were angry, not romantic, cool, they still stay together, it is uncomfortable. But because of love, we both learned," he added.

3. Firmly in Choosing
When you've settled, be consistent adult personal choice that has been made and received all consistency. You can not get the two men, because it is not fair to them. Determine the firm of choice with all the considerations that have been made. Do not be afraid to make a decision that you think is best.

"The next step you should do is to foster and fight for that relationship. Whatever the result later, make sure you already make the best of yourself so that there are no regrets in the future," added Ruth who is also the founder of Counseling and Development Center's PT Personal Growth.  

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